Eating Disorders: What They Are and How to Recognize Them

Eating disorders rarely appear in isolation. Dr. Saulitis describes them as one of the phenomena that together form a single "basket" — alongside growing depression and anxiety. That is why catching the early signs matters so much, before the situation becomes dangerous.

What the Term Really Means

An eating disorder is not simply a set of unusual habits around food. It is a group of phenomena in which the relationship with food breaks down alongside the person's overall wellbeing — depression and anxiety intensify. In severe cases — such as advanced anorexia — the condition can reach a life-threatening level.

How It Shows Up: What People Notice (and Miss)

One of the key signs that parents most often overlook is behavioural duality. When alone, the young person is withdrawn and low — listening to dark music, writing troubled texts. The moment friends arrive, they light up, laugh and seem completely fine. Parents often conclude: "What depression? Look how he acts with his friends!" — and miss the warning signal entirely.

Dr. Saulitis specifically highlights this pattern: the shift between "alone = bad, with others = fine" is exactly the detail that must not be ignored.

What to Watch For

• The young person spends increasing time alone, absorbed in devices
• Mood shifts, and dark themes appear in their writing or conversation
• Behaviour changes sharply depending on whether they are alone or with others
• Anxiety or low mood builds on ordinary days — for example, before school

If several of these signs appear together, that is a reason to seek professional assessment without delay.