Why Sexual Dysfunction Happens: The VitaModo Method’s View

In the VitaModo method, sexual difficulties are seen not as an isolated “breakdown” but as a consequence of the state a person is in. As the doctor observes, in most cases the problem isn’t where people look for it, and it is tied to being stuck in the body’s defensive program.

The Avoidance Program: a Body Set for Flight

When a person lives in a mode of fear and avoidance, their physiology is reconfigured for threat: “all the blood is in the muscles,” the body is ready to flee. But sexuality requires the opposite — blood flowing into the pelvic area, to the organs. While the avoidance program is active, switching over is impossible.

“In 90 percent it’s when people can’t get out of this avoidance program”

“your blood is all in the muscles and you’re set for flight, but it should be the opposite — all the blood into the pelvic area”

Where the Cause Really Is

The doctor suggests naming it in familiar terms: dissociation, hysteria, fear, anxiety. This is what “switches off” sexuality. The popular explanation that “it all comes from childhood” he considers groundless.

“remove this dissociation or hysteria, fear, anxiety — and everything falls into place; the childhood story is utter nonsense”

Sexuality as Many Layers

Sexuality is built of many layers. One of them works like a tranquilizer — a way to relieve tension. That’s why intercourse “isn’t yet a reason to get acquainted”: it matters to understand which layer you’re acting on and why, without building illusions.

The Physiological Component and Regularity

The method stresses a physiological view: orgasms should be regular throughout life. The doctor links this to prevention, speaking from his experience as an oncologist: “this immediately removes oncology.” After fifty, he says, it becomes “a law” — regardless of age, 55, 65, 75 or 85. If a couple is apart or unable, that does not cancel the physiological component.

A Grown-Up, Honest Approach

The method proposes not a “circus” of hurt and grievances, but an adult conversation. If you’re refused — don’t take it personally: it’s the other person’s business or possibly manipulation. Choose a partner consciously. And it’s better to tend to the physiological side well on your own than to meet “just anyone” solely for that.

“never take it personally — it’s that person’s business”

Practice

1. Notice signals of the avoidance program: muscle tension, readiness “to flee,” intrusive anxious thoughts — these are what block sexuality.
2. Name the state in your own words — fear, anxiety, dissociation — instead of hunting for a “childhood cause.”
3. Don’t take refusal personally: it’s the other person’s business, perhaps fatigue or manipulation.
4. Choose a partner consciously and understand which “layer” of sexuality you’re acting on.
5. Treat the physiological component as an adult and regularly — as part of caring for the body.