Why Deciding Is So Hard: The VitaModo Method’s View

Many people freeze on the simplest choices — to eat, to drink, to walk, to sit, to pray. Once others made the routine decisions for them; the familiar choices vanished, and now they sit bewildered, not understanding what is happening. In the method’s view this is no trifle but a signal: the ability to decide is directly tied to the state of mental health.

When choice paralyzes

The doctor recalls a professor who sat before bread and a glass of stewed fruit and could not decide on which side to place the glass. Extreme indecision is already a serious disorder. If you need more than a day to make a decision, that is a warning sign: dragging it out does not free you — it destroys you.

Why it happens: sick thoughts, a sick picture of the world

The root is that sick thoughts produce a sick picture of the world, and in that picture the healthy can no longer be seen. A contradiction arises: to recover you need a clear head, yet clarity is exactly what is missing. The person spins the same thought in circles — this is the “intellectual chewing-gum,” an obsessive-compulsive loop that, the doctor says, can kill you.

A decision switches the brain on

The method sees the way out in the opposite direction: do not wait for clarity to decide — decide so that clarity comes. The moment you make a decision, the brain switches on at once: it already knows what to do. It is like sighting a target: the main thing is to fire. When the body knows what to do, it engages — like going to work: you set off and the body knows the way.

The power of mental health

The ability to decide is what the doctor calls the power of mental health. The one who decides is like a shaman, like a migrating bird, like an eel fry, like a cat: he will still reach his own path. As this power grows, choice stops being torment — you simply see the right way, effortlessly, the way a physician sees a diagnosis. But while the disorder has not receded, the person keeps wandering in turmoil.

Practice: a decision algorithm

1. Set a deadline. “By 12:00 tomorrow I will decide” — allow time to gather information, but strictly limited.
2. Gather and check. Go through the information, match it against past experience: it fits this way, this way, and this way.
3. Strike — make the decision. After that, no more wavering: you simply do it, like a sport.
4. Measure without anger. What this food, this action, this contact gives you — record it, without making a scene.
5. Write down the conclusions. Mark in red what caused a bad reaction: “never again.” Next time you will already know.

Start with the simple — with food, with elementary things — to feel how these principles work.