Why Infidelity Hurts: Subjective Tales Against Objective Reality

When someone is betrayed — or betrays — the pain feels inexplicable and crushing. Dr. Saulitis's method offers not consolation but a tool for understanding: break the experience down into a chain of judgments, the way mathematics uses letters and numbers to describe a process. If a person can lay out their pain as such a chain and understand it, they are in command. If they cannot, then something else is at work in the mind.

Psychiatry as "Three Pencils and a Blank Sheet"

The doctor insists: without the basic principle of analyzing judgments, you cannot speak of psychiatry at all. Thinking is a chain of connected judgments, and what matters is how we connect them — whether we keep the order intact. This simple tool gives "a clear measurement" to any process around us: is it reality or a tale?

Subjective Tales and Objective Shells

The core problem, in the doctor's view: people invent subjective tales, live by them, and make objective decisions. The idea of betrayal is subjective, but the "fist under the eye" is objective. A person treats their inner constructions as if they were directly tied to reality. Hence "Ward No. 6" on both sides — yet the blows that land are real.

How It Grows Into the Head

The doctor describes the mechanism through neuroplasticity: a judgment "grows into the head," neurons link up, the brain lays down uneven roads and then travels the easy, well-worn path. Thus a subjective construction conditions thinking. The doctor calls this a kind of induced or existential delusion — a state that fuses with the person and begins to run them.

From the Subjective to the Body

From a "rag in the head" — a subjective, baseless judgment — come objective changes: blood pressure, sleep, the inability to realize one's potential. The subjective tale strikes the objective body. The doctor deliberately avoids drifting into hormones here: the point is not oxytocin but the structure of the chain of judgments itself.

Why This Isn't Taught

The doctor notes: in clinics and academic departments, brain function is discussed only through notions of sanity and critical thinking. But in essence it concerns the mechanisms of tale, delusion, induction, and hypnosis — which are presented to people as reality. Without understanding these mechanisms, a person stays defenseless against their own constructions.

Practice

1. Take a sheet and write your pain not as a feeling but as a chain of judgments: "he did X → therefore → so I am Y."
2. At each link, ask: is this an objective fact or my subjective idea?
3. Mark where a "tale" is taken as reality — that is precisely what runs your state.
4. Check the order of judgments: is the logic broken, has a fact been replaced by an evaluation?
5. Note the bodily consequences (sleep, pressure, energy) and tie them to a specific link in the chain, not to "pain in general."